Surviving an abusive relationship is one of the hardest things a person can go through. Trust me, I hear a lot of hard things in my office. The pain of not knowing when, at any moment, you could be injured or harmed in any number of ways (not just physically) creates and sustains an environment filled with anguish to the Nth degree. It’s quite shocking, actually, how human beings can change – and adapt - under this type of ongoing stress.Read More
Asking innocent questions also shows a lack of faith and confidence in the other person. It’s as if you’re saying, “You can’t handle this alone, so I have to stay on top of it for you.” Is that the message you really want to send?Read More
He's not perfect ladies and guess what? Neither are we. We made mistakes along the way but that's how we learned. He may not do it the way you want him to. Sometimes it feels like extra work doing damage control when we let them take over the reins but if he wants to do it because he sees that your drowning, just let him.Read More
My mother lost her 2.5 year battle with breast cancer in 1993. She was 53 years old. I was 29 and had an amazingly supportive husband, and three children under the age of five. I had my first mammogram at age 28. Was it early? Of course – but my mother taught me to be proactive and assertive in staying on top of my health, so I would be sure to catch and treat any challenge before it was too late.Read More
This theme, of women feeling like they’re not actually competent, not actually good at anything let alone their livelihoods (workplace success, success in their home or family life, success in their relationships or friendships), has been top of mind for lots of women that I’ve encountered recently.Read More
Whether your child has ‘special needs’ or not, you are not alone. Others may not understand the logistics and fears that go with a particular condition; however, at a deeper level, being a parent is the great equalizer. You are not alone, and you are not mean to go on this journey alone.Read More
I just can’t, can’t stop smiling. My kids are someone else’s responsibility for six hours a day. I didn’t think I would feel this happy. My mind gets to relax and not think about anything but me for a few hours a day. Good way to feel, happy I can enjoy it because it has been one hell of a journey so far.Read More
Have there been aspects of sending your child back to school in the fall that have caused you or your child anxiety, either this year or in the past? Typical culprits are: changing schools, staying on top of schoolwork and getting homework in on time, dealing with bullies or shifting friendships, and participating in extracurricular activities.Read More
My sincere hope is that with just a little more time for me, that I’ll be an even better parent and wife for my amazing family. Not quite so rushed and frantic all the time. It won’t be perfect, but I am ready for it.Read More
Why do people procrastinate? A frequent motivator is anxiety triggered by fear: of failure, of success, or of being judged by others. Negative self-talk in those moments, about how bad the outcome might be, convinces us any action will turn out badly, so we become frozen in inaction.Read More
This question has been asked all the time, ""What is the meaning of life?". I never thought about it before. It never even dawned on me that I would think about it at some point in my life. Yet here I am. I have good times and bad. I just wish I has happier about things.Read More
What could help you find the courage to take a risk and fly into the unknown? What could tip you into taking the leap? Consider your bigger vision for your child.Read More
Don’t get me wrong, there’s something to be treasured about having a few moments to work out in solitude. But if given the chance to walk with some friends, usually mommy friends, I’m always down! I lovingly refer to these walks with friends as “Walking Clubs”…Read More
When you separate yourself from their behavior, you all win. When you stay calm in the face of their craziness, you all win. When you love them in spite of themselves, you all win. Hmm, maybe it really is about you…Read More
…summer is often accompanied for me by a colossal to-do list. I always think that I will be super productive with my hubby home and the lack of a routine. And, truth be told, it very frequently throws me in to a state of overwhelm!
I’ll be right back – just heard an email come through. The phone just rang. Lunchtime. Coffee run. Kickball practice. It’s raining and my windows are open. Hitting the gym real quick.
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If you’re a constant worrier, it’s taking a toll. You may feel powerless and hopeless, in a state of agitation. It can affect your sleep, your eating, your productivity, and your health in general. And like many parents, the more you worry, the more you try to control and micromanage. It’s a normal reaction to want to fix the source of your distress.Read More
She was out the night before and received a phone call that her son, and a couple of friends, had been picked up by the police for vandalism. You can imagine what it was like when they returned home... or can you?Read More
You want your children to leave the nest one day, confident and self-sufficient. How do you help them to be ready for a successful and satisfying life?